Lou Alexander
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07/11/17

Hey

I’ll be completely honest I used to think that self-care was like an English summer of wall to wall sunshine- a nice idea but really, really unlikely.

So for years I practised the polar opposite of self-care; I ignored signals from both my mind and my body; I never took down time: in fact taking time out was a sign of weakness as far as I was concerned. I measured my worth in terms of how hard I could go and for how long: getting run down and getting a cold as I always did because I consistently blasted myself was just something else to work through.

I think the first time I really stopped was when I started getting panic attacks- because even I couldn’t work my way out of one of those bad boys. I simply had to stop and listen- only I was so disconnected from me it took a while to learn what I was listening to and who I actually was without the 14 hour days, two jobs and the martyrdom that I had created for myself.

And here’s what I took my sweet time to learn:
-When I take care of myself I am capable of amazing things and I feel happy
-I am worthy of the best care I can give myself
-My body and mind will tell me what’s what if I will only sit still enough to listen
-My feelings and emotions are safe and usually need only time and space to be experienced

I recently co-hosted a Time For Me supper club which was a great opportunity to get strategic about self-care, what it meant to us and how practically we can fit self-care into busy lives. And here is some of what we discussed:
What is self-care to us?
-Self-care is very individual: it depends on what you need at that point in time
-Despite some of the resistance that can come up we are all always worthy of self-care
-Self-care is about self-love and acceptance and we all deserve that
-When we most feel like just ploughing on through is when we need to stop and take care of ourselves
-How can we make self-care a part of our lives?
-Know what increases our energy and what depletes it- give ourselves more of what increases it
-Get comfortable with turning technology off and having periods of time where you aren’t currently responding to the world
-Get clear in our top 7 priorities and get comfy with saying no, with love, to the things that don’t meet our top priorities
-Create an absolute no list e.g. I don’t go to work when I’m sick, I don’t say yes to things when my body is screaming no
-Get comfy with the beautiful process of mirror work that the wonderful Louise Hay created
Do something you love everyday

Wherever you are on the journey of self-care, I hope that this will have been helpful. Just know that you are worthy of an amazing life and that life gets more amazing when we treat ourselves well and gift to ourselves the love that we readily offer to others.
Love Lou xx

Please share with fellow humans :-)

Louise Alexander Emotional Wellbeing Therapist
At the Heart of Health
louise@attheheartofhealth.com
07957416962
attheheartofhealth.com
03/07/17











Hey

So far we've covered the basics of tapping. You have more than enough to get started and if you would like a reminder simply check out some earlier blogs. Like any other change we only need to shift by a few degrees to have a really positive impact, so making small changes to your EFT routine can make a huge difference. Once you've started and are feeling the results first hand, you can experiment with advanced EFT techniques to help you remove tough emotional blocks. I will let you know in the coming weeks about upcoming Introductions to EFT, that I will be offering over the summer that will teach you some fab new techniques.

Until then let’s chat about gratefulness tapping.

EFT is all about removing the negative and replacing it with the positive. One of the best ways to crank up your positivity and keep it pumping all day long is to be grateful. Gratitude is also a great way to transition, from a less that sparkling mood to a high energy vibe, where anything is possible.

Gratefulness tapping works because as you tap and release your body's energy flow, you imbue it with positive feelings by focusing on things that are going well in your life. You're saying “thanks.”

To do gratefulness tapping, follow the same routine as you would with your regular tapping. But instead of your set-up and reminder phrase, use a gratitude phrase.

Gratitude phrases usually start with, “I'm grateful for” or “I'm grateful that.”

Here are some examples:

I'm grateful for the food on the table.
I'm grateful that I have a home in which I feel safe and comfortable.
I'm grateful for the support I get from friends and family.
I’m grateful that I am being kinder to myself.
I’m grateful that my relationship with my finances is always improving.
I'm grateful that I've managed to save a little money.
I'm grateful for my job/business.
I’m grateful that I am helping others.
I’m grateful for my strength (name one or more strengths)
I’m grateful that I am always learning and growing.
I’m grateful for my physical strength/ health.

And if for any reason you are finding it challenging to focus on gratitude, don’t beat yourself up, just do a few rounds of tapping on whatever is icking you out and refocus on what you are grateful for afterwards.

Give it a try!

And here is something that I am truly grateful for on 15th September I will be co-hosting The 'Making Time for Me' Supper Club with the lovely Healthy Eating Expert Rowena Humphries.

So come join us for a practical, proactive and supportive evening of achieving balance and self-care whilst starting and managing your business.

Of course a supper club wouldn't be a supper club without food and so together we'll construct our own hearty, healthy and delicious Buddah Bowls - all ingredients are gluten free and plant-based. Dessert is a deliciously chocolatey surprise- what’s not to love J

Our early bird price is available for a short period of time so check it out http://www.makingtimeforme.eventbrite.com/


Love Lou xx

Please share with fellow humans :-)

Louise Alexander Emotional Wellbeing Therapist
At the Heart of Health
louise@attheheartofhealth.com
07957416962
attheheartofhealth.com

02/05/17









You’ve probably heard me say that the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) can be used in almost every situation and this is also gloriously true when it comes to managing physical pain. Personally I’ve used EFT for headaches, sinusitis, hay fever symptoms, allergic reactions, and apologies to the men reading this but EFT rocks when it comes to period pains.

But we really can't discuss banishing physical pain using EFT without also addressing how effective it is at simultaneously diminishing any related emotional issues, because the two are inextricably linked. The Centre for Disease Control attribute 85% of disease to an emotional root cause- so when we choose to look at either emotional or physical issues in isolation we really do ourselves a disservice. I’ll share a beautiful story that illustrates this point before I go.

The link between the physical and the emotional can go back and forth, in both directions. So we can choose to tackle emotional issues, or we can work on the physical issues and observe how related emotional components disappear. And as always with EFT we are able to take both approaches in a really kind, gentle and elegant way.

The process for focussing on pain is sometimes referred to as "Chasing the Pain." The technique is to reduce or rid the body of one pain in one body area; then as other discomforts start to show up, they are treated with more EFT and resolved. Thus the discomforts or pains are "chased" around the body until all are eliminated. At the end of the session when asked to describe the intensity of their pain, clients often report that they can no longer find it.

In the case of physical pain, it is understood that the sensation of pain originates in the brain. When we can train the brain's handling of pain messages, we get some of the best pain-relieving solutions. Pain from an injury where tissue damage is present often takes three to six months for the tissue to heal. If there is chronic or persistent pain after the tissues have healed, a deeper issue is going on.

Your emotions and attitudes affect brain activity. The process is complex and still not fully understood (well not by me), but your thoughts very much affect how you experience pain. Certain activities, such as laughing, reduce pain by causing the production of endorphins which latch on to receptors in the brain that are responsible for producing pain-killing and euphoric effects. Meditation brings pain relief by reducing brain activity in areas that are responsible for the intensity and location of a painful stimulus.

It has been postulated that pain lasting more than a few moments can be remembered by the central nervous system, at the level of the neurons. This can set up a vicious cycle of pain, fear of pain, anxiety and stress, and depression. We can interrupt that cycle with a variety of mind-body techniques including hypnosis and guided imagery, Tai Chi, and Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT.

Using EFT, we combine the verbal expression of positive affirmation with a healing acceptance of our current experience (this doesn’t mean we are releasing hope and desire for change) while tapping on the meridians that channel the body's chi, or vital health energy. This clears the emotional blockage from the bioenergy system and restores the balance that is so essential for optimum health and pain-free living.

EFT seems to have the greatest potential--more than other alternative or traditional practices--to create magic when it comes to healing, both emotional and physical. This is due to EFT's ability to quickly diminish the emotional component of traumatic incidents and memories, and once that distress is thwarted, rebalancing and healing can take place, allowing the associated pain to become a thing of the past.
I want to finish up by sharing the experience of a beautiful client who was happy for me to share her story with you. It all began with a horribly debilitating back pain and this pain was present during one of our sessions. With my clients blessing we tapped on the pain, the way it showed up in the body and the emotions that were present.

As we worked through the various aspects, the feelings of the lack of support, the physical and emotional lack of freedom and the overwhelming sense of responsibility we came to a vow that my client had made with the most beautiful of intentions as a child who was witnessing her mum being upset.

This vow was to take responsibility for her mum’s happiness. With her adult knowledge and understanding this was a vow which served neither of them but as a worried and kind child she just wanted to make things better. My beautiful client chose to release the vow and allow her mum to reclaim her responsibility for self, allowing them both to be free, taking responsibility for only that which they can- ourselves. It was a beautiful and inspiring choice to witness and one of the many occasions that I thank the world for EFT.

If you want to check out tapping on pain for yourself it’s super simple;
1. Remind yourself of the tapping recipe (you can get a recap by looking at any of the tapping videos I’ve done before on www.attheheartofhealth.com
2. Identify and the rate the pain you wish to be gone, rate from 0-10, 0 being no pain and 10 being blimey this really really hurts (substitute the language that works for you-expletives welcome)
3. Get tapping; use the language that feels right- it’s impossible to get it wrong
4. After a few rounds of tapping (3 set up statements and 1-2 rounds around all of the points) check in and re rate the pain. If you’ve experienced relief perfect and if not that’s perfect too, you can tap on what remains or if the pain has increased or remained constant go back to step 1 and simply begin again- sometimes focusing on a problem can lead to an initial increase and sometimes (as discussed above) the pain has us chase it about for a bit
5. A few useful questions to gain insight might include; who does this pain remind me of? If this pain could speak what would be its message to me? What is the benefit of this pain?
Enjoy and may you be pain free and joyful xx

Love Lou xx

References:
http://www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-tools/pain-relief.html
http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2012/07/21/eft-for-pain-relief.aspx

30/01/17
and I'm super pleased to be offering an Introduction to EFT
(Emotional Freedom Technique) at the London Therapy Foundation

An introductory workshop with Lou Alexander

Saturday 18th March 2017
1-4pm
London Therapy Foundation
40 Lambert Avenue, Richmond TW9 4QR

EFT is a powerful, clinically proven technique that can help reduce stress, cravings, fears, depression and negativity to create health, vitality and confidence.

Unresolved stresses and negativity are now known to be responsible for 85% of illness, low self-confidence, decreased work efficiency and addictive behaviours which cause an imbalance in body, mind and spirit.

What would your life be like if you felt free from your emotional hooks? Imagine waking up in the morning excited and able to handle any situation, with an attitude that easily lets go of upsets, unwanted cravings and pain to create a positive outlook, energy and vitality.

During this 3-hour workshop, we will explore what EFT is, how it helps and its scientific background. You will experience EFT first hand as we will work with physical tensions, stress relief and cravings.

Lou first began her TAKE A BREATH™ journey many years ago, after finding herself in an extremely stressful work environment that started to negatively affect her health and wellbeing. This journey has now taken her to a very different place! In Lou’s own words: ‘I feel centred, calm and connected most of the time and when I don’t (because life happens) I have the skills to get myself back on track.’ She has trained as an Emotional Wellness Therapist and is a qualified and experienced Hypnotherapist, Counsellor, Psychotherapist, Matrix Reimprinting practitioner and an advanced accredited Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practitioner.

Cost: £15 – booking is by payment in full beforehand

For more information or to book a place, please email:
louise@attheheartofhealth.com
or call: 07957 416962

Refreshments provided
23/01/17
Hey
It's still mid-January, so Happy New Year again! I hope 2017 has been awesome for you so far. And if it hasn't, then maybe you can cut yourself some slack- you can choose to give yourself a fresh start whenever you want.

It's true: one of my beautiful clients gives herself a formal fresh start with every new month that comes: she will do a review of gratitude, learnings and successes and then set her new intentions- pretty cool, right?
So if the early part of 2017 hasn't been great, gift yourself a do-over 😊.

I've not set New Year’s resolutions as such this year, because energetically it felt a bit 😝. What I have done is set 3 soul intentions that flowed from my desired soul feelings of love, healing, joy, vibrant, conscious and connected- a massive shout out to Sara SW for giving the gift of Danielle Laport’s Desire Mapping- it's been a revelation.

My first soul intention is all about me in a holistic sense- physically, mentally and spiritually - and that's where my intentions around food and movement come into play and I've been uber careful with the language I've used- when I'm speaking about food I'm writing about what will nourish me and exercise has become about movement, because the word exercise reminds me of PE at school-running around in a vest and shorts, or at my primary school in Barbados worse still: checked pantaloons- there's a memory to tap on right there, but I digress and so back to the topic of cracking those pesky cravings.

First a confession, I've stalled a little on this blog because I wasn't being congruent- I've been doing some fairly deep work on me and the impact of this focus meant that other things went unchecked, like what I was eating- I'll be honest Christmas eating didn't really end for me until a week or so ago 😊 and what was really a game changer was that I gave permission to do whatever (food-wise) felt good and, weird as it may be, my choices got better- coincidence - no for many of us including me our relationships with food are at least partially emotional.

And when you think about it, it’s not so surprising: food has been part of our lives since we were conceived;it connects us to our caregivers, our friends and family; we celebrate with it; food is connected to most if not all of our milestones and holidays- food is a big deal and it ultimately sustains life.

So we can see how things can get a little complicated and that's where The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) comes into its own. When we identify a food that we don't have as healthy a relationship with as we would like, we can use EFT to not only lessen or rid ourselves of the cravings but also to uncover the deeper need that the food satiates.

Sound good? Awesome, so pick one food that you don't feel you have as healthy a relationship with as you would like. Choose one food only- but know that you can come back to this process time and time again. So first things first: do you have a craving that really doesn't serve you? And here's the important bit - is it a craving that you want to be free from?

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to decide what craving if any you want to say goodbye to, and then go and buy it- no munching, mind. Now you have the object of your cravings, all you need to do is click this link to my Crack Your Cravings video and have some fun with it.

And if cravings, or emotional eating is a biggie for you may want some assistance and I'd love to help - why not book your complimentary 40 minute Discovery Session by calling me on 07957416962 or emailing me @ louise@attheheartofhealth.com.
During this complimentary session we will:
1. -Establish the patterns and behaviours that you no longer want to impact your life
2. -Get absolutely specific about the goals that will propel you towards the future you deserve
3. -Identify and start to clear the blocks that you are currently facing
4. -Share a fantastically simple technique that you can use at any time to feel
happier, calmer, more in control and back on track
5. -Agree together whether I can help and the form that help will take as well as
how many subsequent sessions might be needed to achieve your goals.
Love Lou xx
Please share with fellow humans :-)
Louise Alexander Emotional Wellbeing Therapist
At the Heart of Health
louise@attheheartofhealth.com
07957416962
attheheartofhealth.com

01/01/17
Hey

As we embrace the possibility and chance to start over that 2017 offers negativity may or may not be on your radar, either is perfect. In the last blog we looked at how we can protect ourselves from the negativity of others and I promised then that we would look at our own negativity in the next one: so here goes and lets begin by forgiving ourselves and letting ourselves off of the hook, because everyone (if we are really honest with ourselves) is capable of both positivity and negativity and the crux of it is simply that we get to make a choice, a choice to feel good or to feel bad.

Meet my personal negativity hoover - he is a red Henry the Hoover and, whilst he looks kinda cute, he does quite literally suck. He sucks the joy, opportunity and positivity out of a situation. What might your positivity hoover look and be like? It may not be comfortable to acknowledge your personal positivity hoover and it may feel counter intuitive to give it time and energy, but as with all positive and awesome change the first step is to become aware of what’s happening and from that awareness comes power and possibility. So here goes, give yourself some time and space (hangovers allowing) to ponder your positivity hoover because how much more amazing will 2017 be if your hoover spends more time in the cupboard.











My top tips for managing our personal positivity hoovers:

1. Cut yourself some slack, life is about contrast, some positive and some negative, and each exists because of its opposite. We only really know what we truly want because we have experienced the opposite. It’s ok not to feel on top of the world all the time and its ok to have the occasional pity party- but it may not be a party you want to take up permanent residence at.
2. Acknowledge your power and begin to accept the fact that wherever you are or whatever you find yourself doing, it’s because you chose that situation. Now this may be an ouch moment but it’s ultimately empowering, I promise. You do have control of your life. That means you control your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions.
3. Give yourself some space and time to get real clear on how you do want to think and therefore feel, and once you’ve decided, decide again and again and again until that choice becomes your delightful default position.
4. Allow yourself time to become really acquainted with your feelings: they are our best guide as to where you are with your thoughts and your quest for positivity- if you feel good you are on a positive track and if you feel bad you are on a negative one and you can always change track.
5. Don’t waste energy on beating yourself up if you fall off the positivity wagon: there will be another along in a while and you’ve got a seat reserved. If a negative thought reappears time and time again, it’s time to challenge it directly, because ultimately it is a gift; it may uncover a limiting belief that you are ready to get rid of. So grab a pen and paper and write the negative thought down and get ready to bust it wide open. Ask yourself this question is there any evidence of this in my current reality? If there is then you have something solid to you can take action on and if there isn’t you can chose a new thought when that one pops up next time. The fab news is that we can’t think more than one thought at any one time- so pick a good ‘un and keep coming back to it till you’ve practiced that new neural pathway so often that it becomes your default point.
6. Finally a super quick and easy way to bust negativity is to tap on it and here’s how to do it (check out the tapping diagram below);
· Tapping on the karate chop point say ‘even though I feel really negative I love and accept myself’ repeat this three times.
· Then tap on the following points saying ‘all of this negativity, it doesn’t feel at all good’ between your eyes, besides the eye, under the eye, under the nose, the chin, the collar bone and under the arm.
· And voila say hello to positivity or repeat.


So what now: you might be feeling as if you have quite a task in front of you and it might feel overwhelming - remember nothing has to happen all at once: becoming aware of and choosing alternative thoughts is all part of the big joyous journey of life (here’s a secret - no one ever gets it right all of the time).

And if negativity, both your own and that belonging to other people, is a biggie for you may want some assistance and I'd love to help - why not book your complimentary 40 minute Discovery Session by calling me on 07957416962 or emailing me @ louise@attheheartofhealth.com.
During this complimentary session we will:
1. -Establish the negativity that you no longer want to impact your life
2. -Get absolutely specific about the positivity that will propel you towards the future you deserve
3. -Identify and start to clear the blocks that you are currently facing
4. -Share a fantastically simple technique that you can use at any time to feel
happier, calmer, more in control and back on track
5. -Agree together whether I can help and the form that help will take as well as
how many subsequent sessions might be needed to achieve your goals.












Wishing you happy thoughts and an awesome New Year.
Love Lou xx

Please share with fellow humans :-)

Louise Alexander Emotional Wellbeing Therapist
At the Heart of Health
louise@attheheartofhealth.com
07957416962
attheheartofhealth.com

09/11/16











Hey

Negativity is an experience that can affect all of us and I want to say straight up that there is no judgement here: it just so happens that the focus of this blog is external negativity; in the next blog we will visit internally generated negativity (my personal negativity hoover happens to be a red Henry Hoover just in case you were wondering) but it really helps to be able separate what’s ours and what is other first. So here goes :-)

If you find yourself surrounded by negativity, it can be very challenging to try and stay positive. We know we want to keep our focus on what feels good, and yet we might encounter others who are heavily focused on what's not so great about their life experience at this point in time. It can get very draining trying to fight that influence!

A great place to start is to acknowledge our power and accept the fact that wherever we are or whatever we find ourselves doing, it is because we chose that situation. Of course it is not possible to control the actions or speech of others, but we do have control over ourselves. That means we control our thoughts, our feelings, and our actions- a truth that doesn't always feel as simple as it sounds. In order to step into our power, we ultimately have to admit that we choose to be where we are, wherever that may be- another truth that sounds delightfully simple but can take some tussling with.

If you are stuck in a job you don't like, you could acknowledge that you have the choice to stay there or leave. You may not like the consequences of the choice of leaving - being without a job and without income, but you still have that choice. And that choice to stay for your own reasons, will put you back into your power and aid the realisation that you have control over your life. By owning that decision, you have the ability to make changes.

The next thing to do is to set your circumstances up for the best and most successful outcome. You can decide ahead of time how you wish to feel and whom you choose to be in this situation. As an example, before work, you can say to yourself, I create my own reality. I shall focus on feeling good because I choose to feel peaceful. It makes no difference what anyone else says or does. It is in these very situations that using EFT can be most helpful.

Before we get to the EFT affirmations, it’s really helpful to have awareness of the types of topics that act as triggers or positivity hoovers. Once we know what our hot buttons are, we can decide to refrain from any discussions of these topics, or to engage in them only when we can say something about them that makes us feel good, and the gift is that no matter how powerful the positivity hoover we can always find something to appreciate about a situation or a person.

As soon as you become aware of negativity around you, you will want to have a power phrase that you have determined ahead of time that you say silently to yourself, which will remind you to veer away from the negativity that may be surrounding you. With these phrases, you can tap any point (there is a handy tapping points diagram below) as you say these to yourself: "I'm so happy I can dwell in my own world where. . ." You will fill in what you desire or what you choose to believe about the issues being discussed. It's a fact that our beliefs create our own realities, as they are the filters through which we view the world. If others are speaking negatively about their relationships, for example, you can counter that by silently affirming: "I'm so happy I can dwell in my own world where I can choose peaceful and loving relationships."

You can say, "They are entitled to their opinions but I choose to put my focus on thoughts that make me feel good." You can also send love and peace to the situation or person. Think about some aspect of the person that you can appreciate: it could be their sense of style or the colours they choose to wear. Pay attention to your thoughts. Allowing yourself to get upset by someone else's negativity indicates you've let them get to you. Don't beat yourself up for allowing that to happen. Tapping can do wonders to help you forgive yourself and release those upset feelings and let them go.

So what now: you might be feeling as if you have quite a task in front of you and it might feel overwhelming - remember nothing has to happen all at once, becoming aware of and choosing alternative thoughts is all part of the big joyous journey of life (here’s a secret - no one ever gets it right all of the time).

And if negativity, both your own and that belonging to other people, is a biggie for you may want some assistance and I'd love to help - why not book your complimentary 40 minute Discovery Session by calling me on 07957416962 or emailing me @ louise@attheheartofhealth.com.
During this complimentary session we will:
1. -Establish the negativity that you no longer want to impact your life
2. -Get absolutely specific about the positivity that will propel you towards the future you deserve
3. -Identify and start to clear the blocks that you are currently facing
4. -Share a fantastically simple technique that you can use at any time to feel
happier, calmer, more in control and back on track
5. -Agree together whether I can help and the form that help will take as well as
how many subsequent sessions might be needed to achieve your goals.











Love Lou xx
12/09/16
Hey

Do you ever feel out of control? Like a marionette puppet having its stings pulled by a force that you can't see or feel or control.

So much of how we feel, behave and what we believe is driven by patterns and beliefs embedded in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious is like a gigantic library that doesn’t get updated: it holds onto all of our experiences, beliefs and memories and is designed to identify risk and above all else keep us safe. The beautiful thing is that we are kept safe but sometimes, just sometimes we are also kept small and stuck too, and we deserve and are capable of so much more.

Imagine the scenario: you've been asked to give a talk, you are fabulously knowledgeable and really engaging when you talk about your topic on a one-to-one basis and you'd dearly love to help more people but as soon as you get the offer your subconscious mind identifies a risk and you remember the awful presentation at school which went so horribly wrong;








"I was so nervous, I was hot and red in the face, I couldn’t speak all I could do was breath really loud and watch all of those faces waiting for me to speak. But I couldn’t and didn’t and the earth refused to swallow me up"

At the time the subconscious mind did its bit to keep you safe by saving the experience in the “that was horrible” category of events to be avoided at all cost with warning labels which say “public speaking is not safe” and what’s more “you can’t do it”.
And so we can see how our experiences directly inform our beliefs and our beliefs direct our behaviour.

When we know what our beliefs are we have the opportunity to choose beliefs that better support our goals and the experience of life that we desire and deserve.

Do you want to finally get to grips with the beliefs that are driving your off course?
Yes, beautiful, a great place to start is finishing the sentences that follow. I invite you to say the sentence out loud and write down your first answer that comes to mind; don’t think it through simply go with your gut feeling. I also invite you step away from any judgements that you feel like making about your answers, this isn’t about beating yourself up for holding beliefs you don’t like, it’s about finding out what your beliefs are now, so that you can start to move towards the beliefs you want.

1. Life is …….
2. Love is …….
3. I am ………
4. Staying stuck means ……..
5. Freedom would mean …….
6. Success is ………..
7. Failure is …………
8. My potential is ………
9. My heart is …………
10. My purpose is ………..

How did you find it? It can be a tough but liberating exercise to do. When I first answered the questions a while ago I was really uncomfortable with my answers; I felt that life was hard, that love was for other people, that I was faulty, that staying stuck meant I was safe, that freedom would mean that I could fail. You get the picture: I wasn’t in an optimistic or abundant place; now my answers are pretty different, unless I’m in a stinker of a mood of course.

So what now, you might be feeling like you have quite a task in front of you and it might feel overwhelming - remember nothing has to happen all at once, becoming aware of and choosing alternative beliefs is all part of the big joyous journey of life (here’s a secret - no one ever gets it right all of the time).
Here are some practical tips to start bringing about your changes in belief:
· When you feel a negative feeling ask yourself what would I have to believe about myself to feel like this?
· Challenge that belief and choose a belief that you want.
· Practise that belief- a belief is simply a practised thought, so think that thought over and over and over until it becomes a beautiful belief.

So go ahead and get creating the beautiful beliefs you deserve.
And if beliefs are a biggie for you (I know they have been for me) you may want some assistance and I'd love to help - why not book your complimentary 40 minute Discovery Session by calling me on 07957416962 or emailing me @ louise@attheheartofhealth.com.
During this complimentary session we will:
1. -Establish the beliefs that you no longer want in your life
2. -Get absolutely specific about beliefs will propel you towards the future you deserve
3. -Identify and start to clear the blocks that you are currently facing
4. -Share a fantastically simple technique that you can use at any time to feel
happier, calmer, more in control and back on track
5. -Agree together whether I can help and the form that help will take as well as
how many subsequent sessions might be needed to achieve your goals.


Love Lou xx
14/08/16

Life is so full of change: we grow; we learn; we get jobs; fall in love and out and in again; we build relationships; we learn who we are and sometimes forget. We might have a family, start a business, get married, change jobs, change the way we look and most importantly change the way we think.

All in all, we thrive on and cope really well with change which is great because it’s one of life’s certainties that isn’t about to change. But there are times that change doesn’t feel so good: maybe it brings up fears, questions our self-worth; we might feel vulnerable and sometimes change means losing something we currently have. Maybe we know that we need to change and it’s really scary, so we stay where we are and wind up feeling stuck and frustrated.

When I work with wonderful clients who are dealing with change, the key feelings we work with are fear, stuckness and overwhelm.

To be able to focus all of our attention on building the new we might need to move through some of the resistance that we are feeling first, so check out my flowing with change tapping video (above): it’s really quick and simple and focuses on helping us to move forward with ease.

5 top tips for flowing with change:
1. Well, of course, there is the At the Heart of Health Flowing with Change tapping video :-)
2. Allow for more down time than you might usually do. This might feel counter-intuitive if you have loads on, but you will manage everything a lot better if your stressed-out levels are low.
3. Remind yourself that change doesn’t have to be instantaneous. It’s ok to take your time and when you do, adjusting is so much easier. Change is a natural part of life and growth and new possibilities.
4. Meditate every day. This will give your mind the opportunity to process all that you are experiencing. I can totally recommend a fab mediation for change by Meditation Oasis, it’s called Flowing with Change and reminds us that our emotions are healthy and deserve our attention. It also reminds us that there are things within us that don’t change, like the part that keeps us breathing and makes our hair grow. Check it out at meditation oasis.com on their fab podcast.
5. Take the time to reconnect with all the beautiful qualities and values that make you uniquely you. Sometimes when we are experiencing change (especially difficult change) we can sometimes feel that we are losing ourselves.

Sometimes change can bring up past patterns and experiences and if you feel that this might be the case for you please reach out and book your complimentary Discovery session by calling or emailing me: there is no need to go it alone :-)

Love Lou xx

Louise Alexander Emotional Wellbeing Therapist
At the Heart of Health
louise@attheheartofhealth.com
07957416962
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11/07/16

Emotional wellbeing therapist in Tottenham
Hey

We all go through ups and downs, that is a given, my friend.And it's usually the downs that build resilience and are periods of growth for us but that doesn't mean that they are easy or comfortable and having a turnaround plan can be invaluable during these times.

Most of the time I find myself on an up and when there is a slight dip; gratitude, taking action and doing things that heighten my vibration get me back to a good place.

And then every now and then I find myself in the spiral of less resourceful emotions like fear, self pity, sadness and try as I might my usual steps just don't quite cut it and my gratitude list become an I'm grateful, but .... list and it's at these times I know that it's time to own my stuff and really look at what I'm experiencing.

This can feel really counter-intuitive if you’re practising positivity and the law of attraction; there can be a fear that we will attract even more of what we don't want and what already feels pants and that by focusing on it we might make it bigger.
But what we are really doing is acknowledging our perception of reality as it is right now in that moment with the intention of moving past it and getting back on track.

In acknowledgment of our absolute right to feel as awesome as we dare I offer you My 5 turn it around tips:

1.Put the self-beating stick down. You are human and as such we experience the full array of moods and emotions: this is normal and healthy.
2.Own your stuff say "right this second I feel ....... "and I fill in the gap. It might be hurt, angry, frustrated, sad, abandoned. All emotions are welcome and accepted.
3.Without getting stuck in the story, notice what, if any, bodily sensations come with the feeling. Really tune in to your body and see what it is telling you. When we are still and present in the moment we can tune into the signals and messages we sometimes miss in hustle and bustle of everyday life.
4.Give yourself permission to really feel whatever is present. Sit quietly without distraction for a while (have an awareness that it's sometimes at this moment that cleaning the curtains or some other chore we've happily avoided for a whole becomes quite an attractive option, thank the distraction and then refocus) and just allow yourself to feel, knowing that all emotions will pass, some quickly and some more slowly, and you will know when because you will usually become aware of a calmness within you and maybe a feeling of being grounded.
5. And now simply check in again and notice what's here, and how you feel. You can test your direction of flow by giving gratitude and noticing if how that feels if you’re moving back up the dip gratitude will flow and feel honest, and if it doesn't, simply go back to step 1 and give yourself some more time: it will come and sooner or later you'll be heading right back up.Sometimes connecting with our emotions can take practise and patience and sometimes we need some support. If you have experienced a prolonged pattern of emotion or have experienced any kind of trauma please reach out to a proffesional who can give you the support you deserve.

May your experiences be mainly in an up direction xx
Love Lou xx